I don't have any skills other than coding, so quitting the career would be a major financial hit. In case someone has any advice beyond finding a hobby, going to therapy, approaching random strangers, it would be greatly appreciated. Doing things by myself is boring and depressing, and getting into a group of 'normal' friends, of both genders, to hang out and laugh with, seems like an impossible goal. Still, I'm only in my 30s, and it feels like my life is pretty much done. I tried to meet new people at hobbies and dance lessons, but guess what - they're all full of lonely developers and other socially awkward people - short guys looking for girlfriends, unattractive/aging women looking for husbands, etc.Īll the 'normal' people I knew in the past are now changing diapers and working to pay off their mortgages, which I guess is a kind of consolation.

These days I work either from home, or at best in a mostly empty office. And I made a good career, but in the process, steadily drifted off into isolation. When I eventually went to work, I thought my life would only get better. Finding friends in my teens and 20s was as easy as going out literally anywhere.

I was broke, renting a big flat with a bunch of roommates, but young, healthy, and full of enthusiasm (and booze). The last time I had fun like this was in college. I'm not even mad at them, just full of envy. As I write this post, my neighbors from above, probably college students, are having a party of their lifetime, laughing, kicking and screaming.

I hate my village